As Addie's first birthday approaches I've been doing a lot of thinking about what I can do to be a better mom, a better wife, a better daughter, a better friend, a better person. All of this thinking has led me to reach several conclusions...the most important of which is spending each day being me and the person I was raised to be and not the person I think people want me to be. My life needs some simplifying and no one can do that for me. I've found so much joy in my life and have truly been so lucky with the life I've been able to live, which makes it easy pretty easy to pick out those things that I need to change. I've set my expectations for myself higher and here are the hight points (with a few quotes thrown in because someone else is always better at saying what I want to):
on being a better mom and wife - I've got to do a better job of leaving my stresses at the door and focusing all of my energy on my beautiful family that are the lights of my life. They deserve 100% of me...not the crazy woman that walks through the door at 6pm.
on being a better daughter - Somewhere along the way I feel like I've lost my ability to show just how appreciative I am for everything my parents do for me....which is way more than any child could ever ask of their parents.
on being a better friend - I have some amazing and very special women in my life that deserve more from me than just a random phone call or a late return to a heartfelt email. I often find myself giving more of myself to bad friends than those that are always there for me...that I take for granted. My mom always told me that friendships are about "gives and takes" and "emotional deposits." I've got to let go of those that continue to take and never return...and give more of me to those that are always there.
on being a better person - I find myself sometimes judging people for what they do....which is totally out of synch with my "live and let live" motto. It's not my business to judge how someone else chooses to live their life...whats it to me, anyways?!
And at the end of the day...this is really what matters: